April 27th, 2009
One time long ago someone said to me “how long are you going to grieve”? This mind you was about 3 days after my father’s death. Which by the way was only a bit more than a year after my mothers. Something about that question reallllllly set me off. I got so upset that I started screaming at him as loud as I possible could. I felt utterly ignored for my feelings and for my need to be with myself to process what had just happened in my life. Not to mention that 2 years of being a caretaker was over and I could start focusing on myself again.
And that is then what I started doing. Needless to say that boyfriend did not get to share my new path. My new way of being with me which then also become my new way of being in the world and which has lead me here today.
My journey has been one of coming into my own and healing my emotional self. As I move through it I uncover more. Strange how I can keep realizing old emotions that are still keeping me in a thinking and therefore behavior pattern. The journey is not one of getting rid of them as that boyfriend wanted me to do. When he said get over it he basically said ignore it. When I was much younger I had to ignore many things that I felt because I did not know how to cope with it. Today I can let my heart speak and my emotions be felt and heard. Especially by me. The more we can be aware of how we feel, be honest in our acceptance of how we feel, the more we can heal. So let this be your inspiration to dare feel your feelings. Allow your emotions to speak their truth. Be in your heart so you can love yourself for it. And with that you will get through it all even if it is never over.
-with compassion and love
jeanette
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April 27th, 2009
It does it does. It really does. On weekends I give myself off. Every Sunday is a day off. A day off from working with clients, a day off from avoid certain foods, a day off from having to having to feel my very best. Why would I do that you might ask? Because we all need a day off and we cannot be good alllllll the time. And actually. This matters. Is it about being good or is it about taking care of myself? Take a guess? What do you tell yourself?
For me it is about taking care of myself and I know that one day off is not going to change my direction. It might slow me down a bit but it will not get me off my Path. Health is continuous! Health is accumulative. Do be super hard on yourself and think that one day off is going to “kill” all the days you have been “good”. AND – I don’t call it being good!!
I call it “my health matters to me”. And it matters a lot. It matters for how I feel within 30 minutes after eating – because yes that is all it takes for food to make it “impression” on you. On your expression of it. Every bite will become part of your blood which then becomes part of your brain, your body, your hormones, your emotions, your energy. Did I say enough or shall I keep going?
This means I control how I feel at 30 minute intervals by what I eat! Of course you feel it more with stimulating foods and it is far more subtle when you eat a meal. Unless of course the food hang-over and the bloating is enough sign for you that the meal you just ate did not work for you. You are actually supposed to feel energized and really good after a meal. For years I had digestive issues that caused me to have severe stomach aches and cramps after meals. I did not feel good that is for sure. I finally figured out my food intolerances and as much as that can be a real pain to observe at every meal, it is nothing compared to the pain I had to live with before.
So I choose to take care of myself everyday now. So I can feel my best both now and in the future. Health is accumulative. And for now all I can say is it works. At 46 I feel 36. And rumor has it I more or less look it too. I also don’t have to battle with my weight as many women my age do. So even if health is all that matters to me, the added benefit I welcome too.
Have a great and healthy day.
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April 12th, 2009
Seriously! Do you ever wonder if you know? How do you feel – is that the same as being healthy? Many times my clients ask me if they need blood test before coming to see me so that I can tell what might be wrong with them. Sure, that is helpful. But tell me how you feel! That is telling me how healthy you are. We need to learn how to start trusting our bodies again. How to talk to ourselves and understand the body’s messages. Symptoms are just that – messages about what is out of balance.
In modern western medicine, we diagnose symptoms as illness and disease. We add them all up and give them a name. That way we know what is wrong with us. Do we? Does that make us understand what to do about how we feel? Not really. This is what I love about what I do. The Sherlock Holmes of health. I back-track. I look at the footprints and the little signs along the way and figure out how to get back to where the “crime” happened. Well, I call it the trauma. Somewhere along the way our system no longer can handle what we do to it everyday, and it starts miscommunicating. It can no longer balance out and create the self-healing that it is actually designed to do. That is how the healing process can start again. Going back through the signs and symptoms and get to the root cause of the imbalance. And then we start again.
Get in touch with your health! Learn to listen. Get involved with your own body, health, and lifestyle. Grow your life by understanding your emotional patterns. It is allllll good. A Path for Life indeed.
Best wishes for health and healing,
Always
Jeanette
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