Was that a song? I think so. But it is also who I meet everyday. It seems we would not be since we are so busy connecting all the time. With so many people that we daily see, meet and talk to, link up to over facebook, and email and….I can go on. But are we then lonely? Yes. We are. And I am not saying this holds true for everyone, but see for yourself.
So many people I know, meet or counsel are wonderfully active, accomplished, and radiant human beings, and lonely. We live without community and yet – community is all around us, but it does not exist on its own. We have to create it. We have to participate. I also believe that when we are so busy communicating from our intellect, we forget, or rather avoid, communicating from our heart. And with that we become lonely. We are missing the connection that the heart-to-heart brings us. Maybe that is why they call it a heart-to-heart when someone has to have a “real talk”. We have to sit down with each other and be honest, truthful about our emotions, and share our troubles, pains, and joys. Why don’t we always do that?
Sure I get that we cannot walk around being all heart all the time, but we can certainly come from a heart centered place. So many have lost the connection to even their own heart. Heartbreak after heartbreak. Disappointment after disappointment. Hurt after hurt. And it adds up to a closed off heart. The fear of the pain becomes the pain of living in a closed off heart space that no one can access, barely ourself. We end up living in stress and emotional struggle. We get ill and we fight for our life. This is when many start learning to love themselves. Often that is why severe illness can be the cure…of a life that is not fulfilled.
How about some radical self- love to start a new way of living. Remember how curious you are when you meet someone new? How you are wondering about who they are and you want to get to know more about them. Try that with yourself. Surprise yourself. Stop the same old thought patterns that only talk down to yourself. Become your own best friend. Talk some sense into yourself as you would your best friend when he or she is “down”.
When you can connect to your own heart you can fearlessly connect to others. And we can finally live heart-to-heart.
with love and all heart
jeanette